Gay matchmaker in San Francisco

Gay matchmaker Jacqueline Burns loves San Francisco and has some of the most incredible single men in her network there. In a city known as “the gay capital of the world” Jacqueline makes it her job to find the best of the best, who are also serious about finding a partner.

Who approaches a gay matchmaker in San Francisco? How do they hear about and approach the service?

The gay single men in San Francisco who approach gay matchmaking agency The Echelon Scene are some of the world’s most incredible single men. They tend to hear about the gay matchmaking agency through friends that have joined with the service and had a success in finding their long-term gay life partner. However sometimes they will come through the website. The gay single men who are enquiring with The Echelon Scene are looking for a long-term monogamous relationship.

Gay scene in San Fran not working for them to find love

The gay scene for men in San Francisco is large, as we all know San Francisco is known as the “gay capital of the world,” and is gay friendly. Even many companies in Silicon Valley are highly inclusive of the gay culture. As a result of San Francisco being a liberal city since the early 1900s  and the groups, media, educational structures, festivals, theatre, parades and political systems of support it has, it has meant the gay dating scene has thrived. However, despite a 2006 survey finding 15.4% of inhabitants as LGBT it is still difficult to find a lasting long-term gay relationship. The gay men who Jacqueline Burns, (the Founder of gay matchmaking agency The Echelon Scene), meets are passionate about what they do and lead busy active lives, so therefore do not want to be constantly dating men who are ultimately, not right for them. They would rather spend their valued off time with friends or family, keeping active or travelling and hand the reigns over to a professional gay dating agency. Gay matchmaker Jacqueline Burns finds the key factor that is lacking for the gay singles who approach the matchmaking service is of course, love. The men want to share their lives with someone who is their equal. They are looking for a gay long-term partner who they can respect; someone who is also a go getter, who has their life in order and who genuinely wants to meet the right person. 

It is extremely difficult to tell who is genuinely looking for a long-term relationship when you meet someone at a bar. The gentleman may be attractive (that is the easiest thing to assess), but no matter how good a judge of character one may be, the rest is extremely ambiguous. Many men in San Francisco are very open to go on a date, but the key question is ‘are they serious about it?’ And ‘can it work logistically?’ are they ACTUALLY ready to meet their gay long-term partner. There is a desire for commitment in San Francisco, however people can easily lose focus. They may work very long hours, or their date is too far of a commute.

Not on the scene

One thing Jacqueline Burns has found continuously is it is very rare for someone she works with to be ‘on the scene’ many (no matter the age), have matured and value close bonds and meaningful relationships over being seen at all the right places. Though they may still go to Art Basel, Palm Springs and ski in Gstaad- they aren’t defined by that and know themselves a little better now than being in all the ‘places to be’.

Hiring a gay matchmaker in San Francisco? One market

Hiring a gay matchmaker in San Francisco is easy, there are plenty of options. However, most of them are not offline and catered for the high-end market. The Echelon Scene focuses on one market, gay single men. There are many of those in San Francisco (we are sure many more than the 15.4% stated). So, whilst gay men must filter through to find The Echelon Scene, so too must The Echelon Scene filter through all of the gay single men in San Francisco to find the most genuine, high-achieving and attractive. Key points to consider when going about hiring a gay matchmaker are: ‘Am I dedicating enough time to search for my ideal gay long-term partner?’ ‘Am I coming across the right men on my own?’ ‘Am I under dating?’ ‘Am I over dating?’ ‘What are the issues I have been coming across (if any)?’ ‘Have I fine tuned my search for the ideal gay partner?’ Some of these questions might not need solid answers as a key role of a decent matchmaker is to go over everything with you, in person. However, they are important points to consider. At The Echelon Scene, Jacqueline Burns delivers the service for each of her Clients. A rare sight to see the Founder of a matchmaking agency working directly with the Client. This, Jacqueline finds, is key for success as her Client’s benefit from her 9 years of being a matchmaker. Experience is key as a gay matchmaker can listen, but gut instinct works best from experience in the industry. Jacqueline Burns began working as a gay matchmaker immediately after she finished studying Psychology as a British Psychological Society accredited Masters. Her research during this time was on gay relationship longevity, looking at the factors of what makes a gay relationship last long-term. This allowed her skill to be honed beautifully to working as a matchmaker for gay men. As you would expect gay matchmaking men is a different skill to matchmaking straight men and women.

Need for a gay matchmaker in San Francisco 

There is a great need for many men to hire a gay matchmaker in San Francisco. But it’s not right for everyone. If you are on the fence it is worth enquiring with a gay matchmaking agency. At gay matchmaking agency - The Echelon Scene, Founder Jacqueline Burns will come and meet you in San Francisco, to further explain how the service works. There are definitely issues with dating in each city. However, San Francisco has unique factors which make it extremely difficult to find a long-term gay partner. The USA is not an old culture like that of the UK and the focus is very driven on money and the freedom to be whatever you want to be in life. This puts a lot of pressure on careers and with the average San Franciscan working much longer hours than the average Londoner, finding time – not just to date, but to carefully consider your date, is lost. Luckily with gay offline matchmaking services such as The Echelon Scene, the time element is removed, and the only time Clients need to put in is going on the date and giving detailed feedback the next day to Jacqueline Burns.

Life of a gay matchmaker in San Francisco

Jacqueline Burns loves her time spent in San Francisco meeting some of the most amazing gay single men that she works with. If you would like to meet gay matchmaker Jacqueline face to face, please ENQUIRE and she will reach out to you directly and meet you on her next trip to San Francisco. It all sounds rather glamorous (or perhaps it doesn’t) but gay matchmaking can be tough. There are a lot of points to consider before setting people up on dates whilly nilly. It involves a skilled gay matchmaker to ensure that the match is right, and their Client is putting their best foot forward on each date. Dates are fun yes, but they are also emotional endeavours and as light-hearted and relaxed as people may seem initially when they are looking for a gay long-term relationship, one puts their heart on the line on each date they go on. This is why many matchmakers quit, because it hurts someone to go on a date that isn’t right, and many matchmakers don’t enjoy displeasing people. Luckily at The Echelon Scene, we think very carefully into each introduction and date so at the very least (if there is no chemistry) members are likely to end up as friends. We also give our Clients ‘real talk’ and know how to manage expectations and emotions to ensure our Clients are giving themselves the best possible chance of meeting their gay long-term partner.

Each meeting typically takes 1hr30 mins to 2 hrs for people to hear all they need to know from their gay matchmaker, understand the process, learn about the gentlemen they work with at The Echelon Scene and for Jacqueline to learn more about the man she is meeting. It is important there is a match between matchmaker and single gay gentleman. The Echelon Scene will give you points to consider and go through everything step by step.  

If you would prefer to have a brief phone call with Jacqueline prior to meeting, that’s fine too. She can give you a call for a quick chat to further discuss the gay dating life in San Francisco for a single gay man, or tell you about the service. Reach out here.