Gay matchmaking in LA

“All that glitters is not gold” LA is a major hub for The Echelon Scene; gay matchmaking is the link that not only ties single gay men together, but it vets those who talk the talk but aren’t actually serious about finding someone.

LA is now on the map as one of the leading LGBTQI friendly cities in the world with gay matchmaking agencies plenty. California became the first state in the U.S to legalise domestic partnerships between same-sex couples in 1999. Although this was overruled in 2008, a gender-neutral marriage bill was passed in 2015.  

The gay scene in LA is mostly vibrant and fun, although gay matchmaking did not always exist, there have always been parties and a definite ‘gay scene.’ LA has some of the world’s most beautiful men, best parties, and a huge emphasis on health and fashion; but is LA the best place to find a gay long-term partner? And why is there such a need for gay matchmaking agencies such as The Echelon Scene?

People are social at gyms, they meet and date through apps, parties, the list goes on. However, oftentimes the gay scene is very transitory and although you may party with someone, do you really know them? This is not the best way to meet your husband. Circles change in LA and it can be hard to find real relationships. 

Why do gay men seek gay matchmaking in LA?

Not able to filter effectively. Where do gay men go to LA, who want to find love? Right now, we are in a shift of gay men resorting to using gay dating apps instead of gay bars to hook up. However, for those who want to find their gay long-term partner, gay matchmaking agency The Echelon Scene is the answer. Jacqueline Burns, The Founder, meets on average two single gay men in LA daily and then sets up one-on-one introductions. This keeps the personal touch of gay clubbing with the filtering of gay apps. But with the 21st-century opportunity for gay men in LA being able to admit they want to love and sometimes (oftentimes) marriage and children.

The gentlemen also come to gay matchmaking because they are not finding like-minded gay single men in LA for a long-term gay relationship. 

Seeking like-minded men

The men who seek gay matchmaking want to meet someone likeminded. This can be hard in a city where everyone is from everywhere. When meeting someone for the first time with no mutual contacts, it can be hard to assess if that person would be right for a gay long-term partnership. Never mind you have no idea of the person’s behaviours in relationships, values, and long-term goals- when you meet someone in a bar. Just as it is near impossible to assess someone’s energy and attraction on an app. Gay matchmaking agencies, such as The Echelon Scene, cover all aspects prior to each date, to ensure that their clients have the best chance of success in finding love. Jacqueline goes through a detailed process when gay matchmaking in LA, to get to know every single gay man as an individual, to ensure they are a genuine match with the Client she is working with. The men she works within LA are all passionate about what they do, want to meet their equal partner in love, travel around the world, they are attractive, keep healthy, lead dynamic lives and are genuinely looking for love. 

Too busy for filtering themselves

Many of the single men looking for gay matchmaking in LA that Jacqueline Burns meets, are busy and leading dynamic lives. Many also are not on apps or in bars as they simply do not have the time or inclination to go about finding a partner themselves. They would rather spend their valued free time off with family or seeking areas of enjoyment in their life such as keeping healthy or travelling. They will travel to enjoy LA’s beautiful scenery and love to hike there and keep active. Or they enjoy just seeing friends and relaxing, having dinners and drinks.

Not on the gay scene in LA

 Gay men in LA that seek gay matchmaking agency The Echelon Scene tend not to be ‘on the scene.’ Jacqueline Burns has had (many) meetings with gay single men who ask her ‘am I going to know everyone in your network?’ This question makes Jacqueline laugh. She has a network of thousands of gay single men in LA who are looking for a relationship, spread in all facets of LA. They often work too hard and their friendship groups are a mix of straight and gay friends. They aren’t especially easy to find. Luckily gay matchmaking agency The Echelon Scene spends all their time searching and meeting gay single men in LA who are like this, consistently expanding their network. Jacqueline has met gay single men in LA who are now genuinely looking to meet their compatible long-term partner and have openly said, ‘a few years ago, I would have never met you.’ These men might have been on the scene, spending previous days and nights heading to Soho House or Sound for clubbing. However, these days partying to try to meet someone are behind most of the gay Clients at The Echelon Scene. The age of the Clients at The Echelon Scene range from 24-65 so it is not that they have matured necessarily, but that they are now in a place where they want to meet the right person and therefore need a bit more filtering via a gay matchmaking agency- to meet their ideal partner. Yes, you can have a lot of fun at Pride LA, but how will you know that the handsome man you met there is right for the long-term? The only real filter when you meet another gay single man out in a huge event like Pride LA, is that you find each other physically attractive and have that “spark.” The men The Echelon Scene meet with now for gay matchmaking in LA might have thought they knew every single gay man in LA, but they soon realise this is not the case when they begin gay matchmaking. They also may have realised that most of the gay men in those groups are simply partying and keeping up with the Jones’ and this is no place to find a compatible gay long-term relationship. This is when they become more open to the idea of gay matchmaking agencies such as The Echelon Scene. They may also switch up with their socialising and start spending more time with loved ones they can laugh with and trust. This is a great place to be in to start searching for your gay long-term partner.

Single focused on gay dating

Often men seeking gay matchmaking agency in LA like the fact there is no split in the time of working with straight men and women or lesbian women, the single focus is gay men and gay men only. Gay matchmaking is entirely different from straight matchmaking or lesbian matchmaking. Then within that, there are so many more factors which are crucial for a relationship to work long-term such as complementing behaviours, characters, attraction, energy, values and ideals for the future.

Safety of gay matchmaking in LA

Echelon Scene protocol 

Gay matchmaking with high-end offline agencies like The Echelon Scene in LA ensures that each member is safe. Not only is their information stored securely offline and no company names or surnames are shared, but also (and often more importantly) each gay single man is filtered carefully to ensure they are all who they say they are and genuinely looking for a long-term relationship. At gay matchmaking agency The Echelon Scene, we check ID before setting updates in LA. We also book in the dates ourselves, ensuring they are located in safe places in LA. Jacqueline also speaks personally to each member the day after their date to get first-hand feedback, to see how the date went. 

Men are taking gay matchmaking seriously

Similarly, all of the gay single men that come to The Echelon Scene for gay matchmaking in LA are seeking their equal partner in long-term love. It is not a hookup agency or a dating agency, The Echelon Scene is for gay single men who want to find long-term MONOGOMOUS relationships. This is why gay matchmaking agencies in LA are so key; of course, not all single gay men are genuinely looking for a gay long-term relationship. Or, in some cases, they may be looking for a gay long-term relationship, but they are not looking for a gay long-term monogamous relationship. 

Is LA easier to find love in than a city like, say, for example, New York?

Take dating more seriously. Gay dating in LA can be fun, but it is not as transient as it is in places like New York. The men that come to gay matchmaking agencies in LA, like The Echelon Scene, do not want random fun hookups anymore. They have often finished with partying (mostly) and grown-up. They want a mature relationship, and ultimately are looking for something long-term, that works. The men in LA Jacqueline meets want someone who can come to their friends for dinner (and won’t sit in a corner not knowing who Melina Matsoukas is) or to their next work event. They don’t value the serial dating culture of New York. The gay men who approach gay matchmaking agency The Echelon Scene in LA, want to meet someone who they can share their life with.

Hot climate affecting dating

LA’s beautiful climate means people tend to have more energy for dating than in places which get cold in the winter, such as New York. The gay single men that Jacqueline works within LA are busy, but they want the balance of everything. They want to work, spend time with friends and meet the right person to start a long-term monogamous relationship with. Spontaneity with doing all of these things is easier in places where it is warm. However, the issue that faces many in LA is the traffic, which puts a great divide amongst areas in the city.

Are the men in LA who seek gay matchmaking from all over the world?

Men with a global mindset. Many of the men at gay matchmaking agency The Echelon Scene in LA are very international, reflective of the LA mentality, the matchmaking agency so embraces. Out of many of the matches Jacqueline has made in LA, they are often with men who are well-travelled, from different countries and live in LA now or are from LA, lived elsewhere and moved back. This is because the men that seek gay matchmaking agencies in LA tend to have a global mindset and view the world as though it is a small place to explore, not a big daunting place they have never been to.

Don’t base your search too much on nationality

However, gay matchmaking agency tEs in LA encourages members not to focus too much on the stereotypes of nationality. As long as two people’s character, energy, values and behaviour complement each other, they have similar life goals and find each other attractive- the match can work. People are far more intricate than the stereotypes we make for them. For example, some men say they may be looking for that relaxed LA vibe, but that can be found in someone from Germany who has been living in LA for fifteen years. For some, they may be attracted to their opposite (opposites attract). However, Jacqueline questions everything, really getting to the root of each preference. You like a man from LA because you consider them to be spiritual, well we may well have an English gentleman in our network who is highly spiritual!

As long as the man is passionate about what he does, genuinely looking for a relationship, sophisticated and attractive, they can be from anywhere and will be welcome at The Echelon Scene.