Gay matchmaking in Shöneberg

Berlin has changed and grown since the 1900s and is back to a place where gay matchmaking is desired. A hub of some of the most amazing gay men globally, Jacqueline Burns makes it her business to meet every amazing man who is looking for love.

The gay scene in Berlin has always been ahead of its time. Even if we take it back to the 1920s or 1930s in Shöneberg there was a definite gay area. Although gay matchmaking did not exist, there were around 100 LGBT bars and clubs- including one called Eldorado, a nightclub where trans women and drag queens performed. Still today you can do an LGBT walking tour around West Berlin’s gaybourhood of Shöneberg. Once the Berlin Wall was erected in the 1960s and homosexuality was decriminalised in 1969, the scene came back and there are great gay areas in Kreuberg, Noukoiln and Friedrichshain now too. Berlin is now on the map as one of the leading LGBTQI friendly cities in the world. In 2017 Germany legalised both gay marriage and adoption rights. This also helped confirm what we already knew, that Berlin is a city for everyone.

Why do gay men seek gay matchmaking in Berlin?

Not able to filter effectively. Where do gay men go to Berlin, who want to find love? Right now, we are in a shift of gay men resorting to using gay dating apps instead of gay bars to hook up. However for those who want to find their gay long-term partner, gay matchmaking agency The Echelon Scene is the answer. Jacqueline Burns, The Founder, meets on average two single gay men daily and then sets up one-on-one introductions. This keeps the personal touch of gay clubbing with the filtering of gay apps. But with the 21st century opportunity for gay men being able to admit they want love and sometimes (oftentimes) marriage and children.

 The gentlemen also come to gay matchmaking because they are not finding like-minded gay single men in Berlin for a long-term gay relationship. 

Seeking like-minded men

The men who seek gay matchmaking want to meet someone likeminded. It can be hard (near impossible) to assess someone’s behaviours in relationships, values, and long-term goals when you meet someone in a bar. Just as it is near impossible to assess someone’s energy and attraction on an app. Gay matchmaking agencies such as The Echelon Scene cover all aspects to ensure their Client’s have the best chance of success in finding love. Jacqueline goes through a detailed process when gay matchmaking, to get to know each single gay man as an individual, to ensure they are a genuine match with the Client she is working with. The men she works with are all passionate about what they do, want to meet their equal partner in love, travel around the world, they are attractive, keep healthy, lead dynamic lives and are genuinely looking for love. 

Too busy for filtering themselves

Many of the single men looking for gay matchmaking in Berlin that Jacqueline Burns meets are busy and leading dynamic lives. Many also are not on apps or in bars as they simply do not have the time or inclination to go about finding a partner themselves. Some of the gay men The Echelon Scene matchmake for, would rather spend their valued free time off with family or seeking areas of enjoyment in their life such as keeping healthy, skiing or travel. They will travel to enjoy Sächsische Schweiz’s scenery and love to hike there and keep active. Or they enjoy just seeing friends and relaxing, having dinners and drinks.

Not on the gay scene in Berlin

 Gay men in Berlin that seek gay matchmaking agency The Echelon Scene tend not to be ‘on the scene.’ Jacqueline Burns has had (many) meetings with gay single men who ask her ‘am I going to know everyone in your network?’ This question makes Jacqueline laugh. She has a network of thousands of gay single men looking for a relationship, spread in all facets of Berlin. At The Echelon Scene we find our Client’s enjoy the variety of each district. They often work too hard and their friendship groups are a mix of straight and gay friends. They get together with friends for dinners and are generally low key. Great men for relationships, hard to find. Luckily gay matchmaking agency The Echelon Scene spends all their time searching and meeting gay single men in Berlin who are like this, consistently expanding their network. Jacqueline has met gay single men in Berlin who are now genuinely looking to meet their compatible long-term partner and have openly said, ‘a few years ago, I would have never met you.’ These men might have been on the scene, spending previous days and nights heading to bars like Möbel Olfe in Kreuzberg or Bar Saint Jean in Mitte for drinks or CockTail D’Amore for clubbing. However, these days partying to try to meet someone are behind most of the gay Clients at The Echelon Scene. Of course, we must mention Berghain, which of course goes back 20 years. The age of the Clients at The Echelon Scene range from 24-65 so it is not that they have matured necessarily, but that they are now in a place where they want to meet the right person and therefore need a bit more filtering via a gay matchmaking agency- to meet their ideal partner.  Yes, you can have a lot of fun at Berghain (or at least have your eyes opened) or head down to gay Pride in July in Berlin but how will you know that the handsome man you met there is right for the long-term? The only real filter when you meet another gay single man out in a huge event like Christopher Street Day (or Pride), is that you find each other physically attractive and have that “spark.” The men The Echelon Scene meet with now for gay matchmaking might have thought they knew every single gay man in Berlin, but they soon realise this is not the case when they begin gay matchmaking. They also may have realised that most of the gay men in those groups are simply partying and keeping up with the Jones’ and this is no place to find a compatible gay long-term relationship. This is when they become more open to the idea of gay matchmaking agencies such as The Echelon Scene. They may also switch up with their socialising and start spending more time with loved ones they can laugh with and trust. This is a great place to be in to start searching for your gay long-term partner.

Single focused on gay dating

Often men seeking gay matchmaking agency The Echelon Scene like the fact here is no split in time of working with straight men and women or lesbian women, the single focus is gay single men and gay men only. Gay matchmaking is entirely different to straight matchmaking or lesbian matchmaking. Then within that, there are so many more factors which are crucial for a relationship to work long-term such as complementing behaviours, characters, attraction, energy, values and ideals for the future.

Safety of gay matchmaking in Berlin

Echelon Scene protocol 

Gay matchmaking with high-end offline agencies like The Echelon Scene in Berlin ensure that each member is safe. Not only is their information stored securely offline and no company names or surnames are shared, but also (and often more importantly) each gay single man is filtered carefully to ensure they are all who they say they are and genuinely looking for a long-term relationship.

Since the AfD’s arrival life has become less safe for the LGBTQI community. Hate crimes have gone up and gay counselling and victim support centre Maneo in Berlin has noticed a rise in number of gay men seeking support. At gay matchmaking agency The Echelon Scene, we meet every single gentleman in person and we check ID before setting up dates. We also book in the dates ourselves, ensuring they are located in safe places. Jacqueline also speaks personally to each member the day after their date to get first-hand feedback, to see how the date went. 

Men are taking gay matchmaking seriously.

Similarly, all of the gay single men that come to The Echelon Scene for gay matchmaking are seeking their equal partner in long-term love. It is not a hook up agency or a dating agency, The Echelon Scene is for gay single men who want to find long-term MONOGOMOUS relationships. This is why gay matchmaking agencies are so key; of course not all single gay men are genuinely looking for a gay long-term relationship. Or, in some cases, they may be looking for a gay long-term relationship, but they are not looking for a gay long-term monogamous relationship. 

Is Berlin easier to find love in than a city like, say, for example, New York?

Gay dating in Berlin can be colourful, but it is not as transient and fickle as it is in places like New York. The men that come to gay matchmaking agencies in Berlin like The Echelon Scene do not want random fun hook ups anymore. They have often finished with partying (mostly) and grown-up. They want a mature relationship and many were raised with traditional values and ultimately are looking for something simple, that works. The men Jacqueline meets want someone who can come to their friends for dinner (and won’t sit in a corner not knowing where Croatia is) or to their next work event. They don’t value the serial dating culture of New York. The gay men who approach gay matchmaking agency The Echelon Scene want to meet someone who they can share their life with.

Cold climate affecting dating

Berlin’s cold and dark winters mean planning social occasions can be essential. The gay single men that Jacqueline Burns work with at gay matchmaking agency The Echelon Scene are busy, but they want the balance of everything. They want to work, spend time with family and friends and meet the right person to start a long-term monogamous relationship with. Spontaneity with doing all of these things is easier in places where it is warm. Luckily Berlin isn’t as big as London so that helps, but the winters are long, and people tend to hide out if they don’t have things in the diary.

Are the men in Berlin who seek gay matchmaking from all over the world? 

German men with a global mindset. Many of the men at gay matchmaking agency The Echelon Scene in Berlin are very international, reflective of the Berlin mentality the matchmaking agency so embraces. Out of many of the matches Jacqueline has made they are often with men who are from Berlin, but they are well travelled or perhaps have lived in other cities for a time before they have come back. This is because the men that seek gay matchmaking agency tEs tend to have a global mindset and view the world as though it is a small place to explore, not a big daunting place they have never been to.

Don’t base your search too much on nationality

However, gay matchmaking agency tEs encourages members not to focus too much on the stereotypes of nationality. As long as two people’s character, energy, values and behaviour complement each other, they have similar life goals and find each other attractive- the match can work. People are far more intricate than the stereotypes we make for them. For example some men say they may be looking for that German sense of humour, but that can be found in someone living in Germany for fifteen years. For others they may be attracted to their opposite (opposites attract). However, Jacqueline questions everything, really getting to the root of each preference. You like an Italian because you consider them to be spontaneous, well we may well have a German gentleman in our network who is highly spontaneous. 

As long as the man is passionate about what he does, genuinely looking for a relationship, sophisticated and attractive, they can be from anywhere and will be welcome at The Echelon Scene.