Happy Belated Valentines Day! - Gay Matchmaking Agency - London New York Berlin Toronto - The Echelon Scene

February has been a crazy busy time for us at The Echelon Scene with new Clients galore and lot’s of travel to meet amazing new members. So as the shortest month of the year draws to a close we want to sit for a moment and take stock. What have we learnt this month, where can we grow and what can we improve?

What have we learnt?

With dating and finding love- communication is key. People are not mind readers and often we can give off a very different impression to what we thought. If something is bothering you, try and communicate that before just breaking things off. Or, if you aren’t sure where the person you’re dating stands, you can ask. Our recommendation would be to always have these conversations in person, where less can be confused. But please do have them. When people are nervous at the start of relationships they often say silly random things they do not mean, so clarifying is key. 

Where can we grow?

Really looking after yourself when dating is also essential. If you find your needs not being met, that you feel anxious or unsure. Sit with that feeling. Where should you have more boundaries and where is your date triggering something unconscious from the past? Having a strong sense of self is a daily practice and should be worked on always. As we have said in the past, you do not need to be perfect to enter a relationship. But to begin and maintain a healthy partnership it is very helpful to continuously work on grounding yourself. This can be done in 10 minutes with a meditation in the morning. Just be sure to put some energy back into yourself and know where your stuff begins and ends.

What can we improve?

Similar to communication, vulnerability is another key element to a partnership. At The Echelon Scene we really work with so many men who are very driven, on a great trajectory and are dynamic forces. That doesn’t mean that those men don’t have a soft side, want to be loved and supported and cared for too. If that is you, show that. Ways to show that are firstly, just being honest when you’re feeling stressed or overwhelmed. And accepting help and support. Sometimes we are so used to looking after ourselves we don’t even see when someone is going out of their way to be there for us. Look around you, acknowledge this support and learn to give and take it. Relationships are all about balance and you want the person that you are dating to see how they can fit into your life. Create space for them.

Valentines Day has come and gone and we will see many more of them. It can be a really special day if you are newly dating someone that you like or happily partnered. Or it can be a tricky day where you feel more single and lonely than ever. Know that life is coloured and ebbs and flows and you will have your time feeling happy and smug. Believe you deserve a wholesome love as much as you know that your amazon package will arrive without you tracking it non stop.

For more advice or for help finding love. Reach out directly to The Echelon Scene Founder, Jacqueline Burns.