Why the 'summer dating' mindset won't help you find love - Gay Matchmaking Agency - London New York Berlin Toronto - The Echelon Scene

August is smack bang in the summer of love and people have much more inclination to be out and about and dating. However, we need to ensure that we are dating intentionally, remembering the aim is to find love.  

How many dates at one time are too many? Does dating multiple men help, or hinder, the search?

At The Echelon Scene we like to do introduction and then feedback, averaging out to one intro per month. We are a matchmaking agency, distinct from a dating service, with a focus on quality over quantity. Our priority is to ensure that every introduction receives the attention, effort, and thoughtful consideration it deserves. Too many matches dilute the process, which is why we focus on each individual introduction to create the best possible outcome. 

Serial dating can lead to burnout. Continuously meeting new people without forming deeper connections can be emotionally exhausting and disheartening. Over time, the excitement of meeting someone new diminishes, and the process can start to feel more like a chore than an opportunity for genuine connection.  

When dating becomes a chore or part of a weekly routine, almost like going to the gym, the emotional impact of each encounter is severely weakened. What should be a meaningful experience turns into a repetitive, routine activity. This numbing effect can make it difficult to recognise when someone truly special comes along. The process can easily shift from seeking a real connection to just collecting dates. Additionally, jumping from one date to the next leaves little room for reflection. True connection often requires time to think about the person you've met, to consider how they align with your values and long-term goals.

Dating multiple men at once can create a sense of detachment. With more than one man in the mix, it’s easy to lose track of who you’re really connecting with, making it difficult to establish a genuine bond and potential true connections can easily slip away. 

Every year, as August arrives, we observe a noticeable change in the mindset of our clients who aren’t travelling. Those who remain at home tend to be more proactive and enthusiastic about finding love. There’s a certain allure to this time of year, where the idea of finding love feels natural, and many find themselves dating more frequently. This August mindset often contrasts sharply with the approach that comes with September. As the summer fades and people return to their regular routines, there’s a distinct “back-to-school” vibe. The focus shifts toward work, personal goals, and preparing for the months ahead as the weather cools down. In September, the pursuit of love often becomes more serious, with individuals seeking stability and meaningful relationships rather than fleeting summer romances. 

Despite these seasonal shifts in mindset, it’s important to maintain a consistent and balanced approach to matchmaking throughout the year. By keeping a steady focus on finding meaningful connections, rather than getting caught up in the ebbs and flows of seasonal attitudes, you’re more likely to build relationships that last beyond the changing weather and temporary moods. 

To plan for the months ahead and find love, please reach out!