Pride month!! - Gay Matchmaking Agency - London New York Berlin Toronto - The Echelon Scene

As Pride month commences, we take stock of everything that’s gone on over the past few months worldwide it really puts everything into perspective. We enter into a drop in numbers and of course…PRIDE MONTH.

The value of health, taking care of one another, our home, loved ones, family has come to the forefront of our minds. Many of our members who put a lot of their focus on work have shifted into a new routine and turned their focus to more personal matters – such as self-care and of course…love. That is why The Echelon Scene has continued to thrive throughout the pandemic.

Society has encouraged people to be selfish. ‘Do you.’ If it’s not working for you, why stick it out. And in some situations, this is the correct advice. But has COVID (especially in the states and the USA) shown us selfishness and narcissism doesn’t get us very far? I believe it has. Focusing on others’ needs and loving and caring for others strengthens our relationships. So for all those gay singles reading this, instead of over analyzing how you feel about a potential gay husband, reach out, chat and make a small act of kindness- see how it is reciprocated.

Those who wanted to find love, still do. So, now the summer is well and truly here, and the numbers look like they are dropping…what next. Many of our members have taken the step to meet dates in person via a walk in the park. And soon, in some places, bars and restaurants will be re-opening. The Echelon Scene would like to take some teachings with them going forward.

1.     Patience/Letting go of control

With COVID shifting aspects of our life beyond our control we are realizing maybe we need to let go a bit and go with the flow. Apply this to dating going forward. Go into dates open minded and open hearted. The outcome will be different, I promise.

2.     Fear of commitment

For those seeking a long-term, monogamous relationship- work through your fears. It is possible to fear commitment and also want it. Hopefully COVID has given you some space and time to address any issues you might be carrying. Acknowledge them and then focus on the future. What are your goals and what can you do to reach them? Are you wanting to get married and start a family? If you need to work on yourself to get there, do it.

3.     Know your worth

Have I mentioned? It’s PRIDE month, be proud and know your worth. If you are dating and you don’t feel everything is right, question it. Speak your truth, be honest. You deserve to receive good things. Believe that. And if you need advice, call Jacqueline 07789022402.

4.     Receiving establishes connection

Psychology Today just posted an article on why receiving attention can be tricky sometimes. Receiving care, love and kindness creates connection. Allow this. Open yourself up to this and don’t close off by being the person who always does something for others.

5.     Accept compliments

When someone compliments you. Don’t say ‘Oh no, I’m not’ say: ‘Thank you’. Accept the kind words and believe them. They will boost your opinion of yourself.

So much of dating is confidence, openness and a relaxed attitude, whilst knowing boundaries. Check in with yourself in between dates to see if you are offering up more than you are getting back. If you need advice on this or help meeting the one, contact Jacqueline.