Opening our hearts to others is the foundation of love. - Gay Matchmaking Agency - London New York Berlin Toronto - The Echelon Scene

Last month we spoke about getting outside our comfort zone both mentally and physically, doing things that scare us and help us grow as people. This month the theme is giving back, to others. There is a lot of focus in today’s modern society on ourselves. Being selfish, putting ourselves first and doing what is right for us. At The Echelon Scene, we have mixed feelings about this. As a matchmaker I think the main purpose of working on ourselves should be so that we can show up as our best selves for others. With men (regardless of gender) who are of a level of success in their professions it can be easy to for a lot of focus to go on themselves, their schedule and the different directions men feel they may be pulled in. However, to start a long-term relationship, remaining as empathetic to others, their schedules and how they may feel, is essential.

This translates beyond dating and love- it wouldn’t be right not to mention the atrocities in the Ukraine. Getting outside ourselves and giving back, financially and with our time and well wishes, is the least we can do. Or closer to home, giving back to your community, or making it your business to mentor or care for a loved one, or acquaintance who needs it. Opening our hearts to others and putting others first (with boundaries when it comes to love relationships) is the foundation of love.  

Career and making money is great. But as the saying goes, ‘we can’t take it with us.’ My advice, if you are feeling stuck when it comes to love, lonely and single- is firstly, give back. Make yourself busy with new, meaningful activities which will make a difference. Secondly, when you do get to dating- even if you don’t know the guy, think of him. Being thoughtful to others, whether that’s regarding their schedule, being accommodating, or just thinking how they might be feeling. It sounds extremely obvious, but I think as we get older people can forget these common decencies. And then finally, once in a relationship- never stop doing the little things for your partner. Listen more and react with love, not fear.

We all have a lot to be grateful for, reminding ourselves of that is essential. And getting outside ourselves, into the community and taking action where it’s needed. Love couldn’t be a higher commodity in times like this, it is everything. Even if you don’t have a loved partner, be grateful for the ones in life who love you and start noticing the little things, the small acts of love that we come across every day.

For more help or guidance on this topic or about matchmaking specifically, please reach out to Jacqueline Burns directly.