Mindset and positivity when being matchmade is key, here’s why: - Gay Matchmaking Agency - London New York Berlin Toronto - The Echelon Scene

There are so many things in life that we cannot control. Finding love is one of them. Yes, you can hire a gay matchmaker and go on great dates- but sometimes, for whatever reason those dates might not blossom into a relationship. I encourage all of my new members to come to the service open and positive and to enjoy the ride. As it is just that, a rollercoaster of highs and lows. The process goes the best with those who are open, relaxed and enjoy the ride. Having done this successfully for eleven years, it can be tricky to predict how the process will go client to client. But I have noticed it often seems to be right as the Client relaxes into the process, let’s go and releases control- that bam, the right match clicks.

I have found that in all aspects of life- the phrase ‘a watched pot never boils,’ comes to mind. We are on the case and have amazing men, but the process- to some extent is out of our control. Sometimes the best matches don’t click and sometimes we have the most random pairings we feel excited by that skip off into the sunset. The best advice we’ve been given at The Echelon Scene, which transfers into this process as well, is to just do what makes you happy always. Don’t hold back and control or question, just follow what brings you joy and makes you feel good. That positive energy, whilst we are delivering the service translates and the matches feed off of it. For example, we had a Client decide to take 3 months off for personal travel and boom, the first date he had when he returned, turned into a relationship. He took the risk of delaying finding someone to work on his own needs and when he came back to the service his matches could feel a whole, complete, content and glowing energy.

Now I know not everyone can just nip off and take 3 months to themselves. But finding that inner peace and calm is key. We’ve spoken a lot about meditation, so we won’t mention that again. But just keeping busy, learning, taking on new projects, philanthropic work, getting outside ourselves- caring for our loved ones, resting, looking after ourselves, feeling good in our skin despite how we look– saying yes to opportunities, putting ourselves in new situations. Being busy doesn’t have to be stressful or consuming, it has to do with looking forward to our future, so we can meet someone for a long-term relationship at a place of wholeness. No relationship will ever complete us, so we need to get to a place before we find love where we are happy and whole.

If you need advice, either through a matchmaker or through one of our recommended life coaches, please do reach out. Our process is proactive and personal, but it is also tailored to each Client in minor ways which give each individual the best chance to finding love. Jacqueline Burns will explain this directly, if you send an enquiry through our website- we would love to help or guide you in whatever way possible, on your journey to find love.