Masculine vs feminine energy and how the masculine can hinder finding love - Gay Matchmaking Agency - London New York Berlin Toronto - The Echelon Scene

At The Echelon Scene, I have found the subject of masculine vs feminine energy one that crops up in most meetings. Most of the men I speak to view masculine energy as the more attractive and put a premium on the qualities that come with masculine energy. However, I am more interested in the balance of masculine vs feminine. Everyone, no matter our demeanour, gender or sexuality has a mix of feminine (yin) and masculine (yang) energy. We all have the tendency to lean one way or the other, or occurrences in our life can make us identify more with either our feminine or our masculine energy. This can lead to an imbalance.

It is important when looking to meet a partner, that you are aware of any imbalances. I have noticed with the men I work with, a slight tendency to identify more with the masculine energy and forget to address the feminine. This shows up as men coming across as very assertive, goal-orientated, dominant, accomplished, leaders, independent etc. This is a man who has full control, excels and is on a trajectory. I know those qualities sound positive and those characteristics are often highlighted in what our Clients are looking for in a partner (as most men I speak to want someone similarly driven and yang). However, there are negatives to living in your masculine energy and not identifying with your feminine- and these are especially highlighted when one enters a relationship or is looking for love.

Often the over identifying with the masculine yang is a very isolating feeling, where one may feel that no one can help or support them, that they are the only ones who can achieve and that no one can look after and love them the same way in return. This may lead to feeling that we don't need people, blocking out sources of love and connection and being numb. When bad things happen especially there can be a tendency to numb ourselves and rise up using masculine energy, but this is not going to get you into a long-term partnership. Detaching oneself can be a tactic to avoid feeling but this is unhealthy for finding a long-term partner.

The key here is to open yourself up, bring in some feminine energy, learn to trust, learn to connect, learn to delegate and let others do things for you. Allow others to fail, even if you know you could have prevented it. Try to remind yourself that those around you are your confidantes and act accordingly. Repeat the mantra and write it down; 'I am open, I am connected, I trust.’ If something goes awry don’t shut yourself off, try opening up and seeing what happens- 9/10 this will make you feel better and you will start realising that those around you can contribute more than you realise they do.

Perhaps the over identifying masculine energy is heightened due to two men or due to alpha masculine males often being placed on a pedestal. However, remember that being in touch with the feminine, is key. Thinking with our feelings rather than our head, releasing control and going with the gut, trusting people, and letting them in; these are all essential behaviours for building a long-term, balanced, loving love relationship that can stand the test of time.

If you feel as though your energy is imbalanced, please reach out to Jacqueline directly and she can give you more knowledge and understanding on the subject and teach you how to become more balanced going forward.