Love and happiness during lockdown 3.0, how to find it and maintain it - Gay Matchmaking Agency - London New York Berlin Toronto - The Echelon Scene

Is that a defeatist dejected sigh I hear? At The Echelon Scene, we get it. We don’t need to repeat back to you the numerous factors beating down on us all, on a daily basis. You already know. But what WE know about is, love.

Love and finding love during lockdown, is a beautiful thing. Love can, quite literally cure us and increase our life expectancy. One meta-analysis discovered that social relationships were more likely to ward off death than quitting smoking or exercise. And keeping in tip top shape is more key than ever right now!

In uncertain times, relationships are essential. Even if we cannot see people face-to-face, feeling positive support and that those around you have your best interest, is crucial. We need love now, more than ever.

How is finding love even possible when we are told to stay put in our houses and not even see anyone, I hear you cry?

Hope for the future is key for happiness. Looking forward to that future date we will set you up on can keep you going. Hearing about dating prospects and having them lined up for you, can help you spring out of bed in the morning. Don’t throw in the towel on love, as hope and having something to fight for keeps us moving. Even if it is one Zoom call with a potential new match every couple of weeks, that is something exciting to prep and plan for. Communication with a genuine match is exciting, as opposed to the same conversations you may have on repeat with friends or family. Why not learn about someone special potentially, who has been heavily vetted for you?

Our next essential tool to stay happy which we mentioned above is : support. Genuinely feeling support from friends and/or family is another key to happiness. In 2020 we rid ourselves of all things toxic, so we could move into 2021 emotionally open to receive the love and support that we deserve. If that is not the case for you, then use this time to strengthen your emotional boundaries, heal and clear space for positive things and people to enter into your life.

So, going back to that dejected sigh that we heard- we are not suggesting that everything is rosy, that we can date how we might want and that the sun is beating down on us. We are saying that we are resilient, stronger than we think- and we adapt. Don’t throw in the towel and waste yet another year of your life watching Netflix. Do something which excites you. Whether it is having a Zoom call with a match or going on a socially distanced walk with one. Keep it moving, even if it’s at a much slower pace. George Bonnano writes in The Other Side of Sadness, that optimism is key. People who survive the best are those that can say ‘OK I didn’t want this to happen. But what do I need to do to get beyond it?’ Have confidence in yourself to adapt and cope. And reach out to others. We are here at The Echelon Scene, if only for a chat.