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At The Echelon Scene we work with Clients who have faced all different types of adversity and created an amazing life for themselves. We are very proud to work for men from all across the globe who came out and are clear with what they want for themselves in their future- a monogamous, long-term relationship with their equal partner in love. Does that mean that once they got to the point where they felt ready and were comfortable to speak their truth that things went smoothly? Not always. Dating and finding love can be a rollercoaster of highs and lows. It is important to try and learn from the lows as much as possible and not let them keep you down for too long.

Many people write a check list of what they are looking for in an ideal partner. But instead we at The Echelon Scene recommend visualising and imagining how you want to feel and how you want your life to look. Do you want to feel loved, protected, safe, respected, secure? Those are the feelings you need to go back to. And then what do you really want- do you want a house in the English countryside with a kid and a dog or do you want to make money together, have freedom but also build a family, or do you just want to be a power couple? It is important to act accordingly to your needs as well, not your wants. Your wants can take you down the wrong path, following the wrong man. Believe in yourself and try not to compromise. Similarly, if you find yourself reneging on your boundaries here are some things that you can do to reset yourself:

1.        Sit with your visualisation. Is the person that you feel you want matching with the person you know you need. Compare how this man that isn’t right for you is making you feel, compared to how you envisage feeling. If it’s hard for you to visualise find a couple that you would like to be like in the future. They don’t have to be exactly perfect, but can help with your manifestation.

2.        Trust in yourself and act according to what is coming for you. Be happy for those that have what you want. Emulate good energy. This can be hard if you’re feeling defeated or lonely. Firstly allow yourself to feel the feels. But then also exercise, do breathwork, sleep, be with friends and ground yourself- and get you back to you.

3.        Don’t fight change. If all signs are pointing to you being unhappy and something not being right. Let it go. There may be a gap of silence and loneliness that you are looking to fill, but trust it will be filled with something much better. For this, see above.

4.        Write down what you have learned about yourself from situationships that have proved disappointing. Was it more clarity about what you need in the future, did it shine a light on past trauma, did it make you realise that you’re not where you want to be career wise. Start putting that energy that you put into the other person that disappointed you into those areas of your life that need fixing.

5.        Find unconditional love in other places to remind yourself exactly how it should be. Whether that is from a parent, a best friend of 25 years, or even a dog. Feel that love and know that’s what you should be searching for in the future. Not confusion, anxiety, drama or sadness. Toxicity should not enter your sphere when you find the one.

We can help you find a healthy, happy, long-term partnership. Please reach out when you feel relationship ready, we will be here.