How to round up 2020 in style with these five nuggets of advice - Gay Matchmaking Agency - London New York Berlin Toronto - The Echelon Scene

Jacqueline Burns, The Echelon Scene’s Founder and gay matchmaking expert- has had more time and space to observe this year. This has been such an important year full of lessons and hopefully everyone has been able to start putting what they have learned into practice. Each of Jacqueline’s Clients have completely different journeys, stories, criteria for their search etc. but this is what makes working as a matchmaker so exciting. The Echelon Scene are proud to have continued working, growing and matching people throughout the year, adapting every month to a new normal. And we are very grateful to have been able to do so. Jacqueline looks forward to getting every single Client in a loving happy relationship, just as they deserve.  

Before we round up the year, we would like to impart some lessons we have taken from our recent Client’s journeys- in hope the reader can learn something too.

1.     Meeting someone likeminded is key. This is why many come to the service in the first place, to meet their equal. Not only is this near impossible to decipher with online dating, it is hard to even tell on the first date. It is why Jacqueline does in depth profiling with each member. Not only is it key to meet someone who you get on with and find attractive, but then- do they laugh at the same jokes, do they have complementing emotional intelligence, ways of socialising, family values, hopes and dreams for the future? People rarely look at these factors when first dating, but we do.

2.     Not letting people walk all over you. So many that we work with don’t know when to put their foot down and when to let things go. There is a fine balance between being highly strung and letting people take advantage. This is where we come in, we can give the third-party advice often needed in these types of scenarios. When your love interest is clearly taking from you too much emotionally, financially or energetically and you can’t remember what you’re getting back again- then it is time to walk away. Moving forward, into the life we are meant to have and have always dreamed of having, means having boundaries and not just anyone can come along for the ride.

3.     Be honest, with yourself. We encourage honesty, every step of the way, with all of our Clients. Feedback is how we narrow the search and so open communication is highly encouraged. We also recommend that all of our Client’s to take a look inside and do as much introspection throughout the process as possible. Living in denial is a massive hinderance to growing and can be the reason relationships turn toxic. If you think something you’re doing or looking for is slowing you down, let us know and we can help you deal with it accordingly to carve the best path for you going forward.

4.     Stop trying to over date. This is a huge issue and one many do to avoid 3. Quantity is not quality and over dating can quickly become disheartening and mess with the mind. It is important to take stock, remain open and clear on oneself. We can help our Client’s do that, find out who they are and not make compromises when making introductions. There is only one life, spend it with the people you are meant to, not those you are with out of convenience or fear. This never has a good outcome.

5.     Laugh. If you are not laughing and having a good time on the first few dates, it might not be right. Lighten up. This year has been serious enough as it is, you should be dating men who make you feel light not heavy. We know our Clients are having a good time when they come back from a first date and can’t even remember what they spoke about. Connection is a rare and beautiful thing, so many factors have to come into play. Luckily it is our profession to analyse these factors, get our Client’s out on dates they are excited about, where they can sit back, relax, have fun and connect. For more information or advice on the five points or just to reach out, please contact Jacqueline Burns directly.