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It’s been an exciting time these past two months, full of lessons we would love to share with you! At The Echelon Scene we have been learning about opening oneself up, finding balance, following the gut (not always the mind) but also assessing patterns of behaviour and breaking negative patterns. This may sound like a lot, and it is! It’s been a journey but please read below for more on our findings:

1.     Self-worth is key. Believing in yourself and that you deserve it all, is the number one step to finding love. It may be that on the surface you feel that you do, but underneath it your subconscious may not be as self-assured. At The Echelon Scene we are firm believers in therapy. No matter how you are feeling, it is so worth it- especially if you are on a journey of trying to find love. A therapist can not only bring up limiting beliefs, but any good therapist should also give you tools to clear them.. so that you can move forward lighter and more relationship ready! Write down your feelings and share them with others, release past trauma emotionally and trust us, this is the angle you want to be entering a relationship from.

2.     Follow your gut. This is age old advice, but in western society we are taught to think in a linear way with our heads, so much so that we forget to listen to our hearts. To end up with the right partner, don’t be afraid to take risks- even if they don’t seem like they will lead you to your end goal. Make yourself happy and feel good and that’s when love will come your way. We find with matchmaking, our happiest Client’s are our easiest to match by a long way. People feed off of others’ positivity. Whether that means taking the trip which might mean compromising work slightly, or going to that person's house for a coffee, even though you don’t know them that well. If your gut is telling you something, you want to do it and it doesn't cause other's harm, just do it.

3.     Find balance, I think growing whilst also remaining focused on your values and your goals can be tough. Keep at the back of your mind what it is that you’re after and try to work towards it. For example, say yes and follow your gut but also balance that with maintaining all that you have worked towards. If you ever feel overwhelmed, write things down- this is an age old way of alining your thoughts and making everything a step by step process – which is easier to achieve. However, to make you feel better- we are not believers of manifestation here at The Echelon Scene. We cannot simply visualise what we want, if we can’t feel it. And feeling it can be tough when you don’t have it. The best way to really feel the thing you are manifesting- love, a relationship etc. is to surround yourself with it – look at a relationship you admire and use that to feed your visualisations and feelings. Perhaps even consider hypnotherapy with a trusted practitioner.

4.     Break toxic patterns of behaviour. We often find ourselves repeating patterns throughout our lives. Whether this is continuously buying the same clothes, or attracting people who are selfish, or cannot support us. It is our job not to only heal the part of ourselves that brings that in, but to actively say ‘no’ when it comes to us again. The only way to grow and get what we want is to never compromise and believe we can have it all. Now, this isn’t to say we should only focus on being in a relationship with a 6’5” model who owns his own business- it’s healing the part of ourselves that wants someone shiny, focusing on what really matters for us and then believing we can get that and working towards it.

5.     Spend time alone. I think that’s the last thing people want to be told after COVID. But now we are able to be more free- still making sure we are carving out that time each week for ourselves is more key than ever. Time alone allows us to properly reflect and collect our thoughts. Sleep, make a note of your dreams, thoughts- study yourself and you will learn enough to grow in positive ways.

And for any more advice or top tips on ways to structure your growth, please reach out to Jacqueline Burns directly.