How the ‘new normal’ will be a vast improvement for gay men seeking a long-term partner - Gay Matchmaking Agency - London New York Berlin Toronto - The Echelon Scene

At The Echelon Scene, we have been speaking to our Clients and received a vast range of feedback covering - worries for the future, life changes and relationship goals. One thing that hasn’t changed at all, is that the men who come to us are single and want to meet the right certain someone, for a long-term relationship. While they cannot currently manage physical meetings, there are many things that can be done now to fix long-term issues in dating.

Issue number one: Making long-term relationship decisions based on attraction

With our Clients temporarily meeting matches over Zoom, the connection needs to be there intellectually and emotionally, as physical chemistry is more difficult to establish. This is essential, as we see so many couples meet outside matchmaking agencies who simply do not have shared views for their future or complementary values. It is so easy to look past this at the start when you meet someone and fancy them. Jacqueline Burns always focuses on emotional ties when considering matches for her Clients. She is noticing a lovely change as her Clients bond over the deeper matters quicker and leave the flirting for later.

Issue number two: The distractions of everyday life

A Client and Jacqueline mused how the very process of face-to-face dating is distracting. Getting to the restaurant, the smooth order of drinks and/or dinner and the background noise are all taking away from the ultimate goal - to get to know the person opposite you. With Zoom calls there are no distractions, apart from bad signal! You can look at the person in front of you and talk. Jacqueline Burns believes there is something freeing about telephone and Zoom conversations where you can really open up and say what is on your mind. Things you do when IN a relationship. It gives you a great insight into how things would be much quicker, when you would be in a long-term monogamous relationship with the person opposite you. Listen and you will learn a lot. It may not all be good and if not, you hopefully have enough time to consider your next step. Which leads us to our next point.

Issue number three: We were too busy.

Most of our Clients are passionate about what they do for work and lead busy active lifestyles, so they NEED to hire a service like the Echelon Scene to find love. Times like these really open our eyes to the treadmill we run on constantly and show us what is important. This crazy period of time has given Clients time to focus on their future relationship goals and allows them to carefully consider each match and make the right steps post date. You had a good conversation and hit it off? You contact each other the next day. You aren’t sure, you speak again. You don’t want to meet again, you communicate that properly with your date. The I’m too busy to think excuse just won’t work.

Issue number four: The big C word…shock…Communication

You knew we weren’t going to write a blog and not mention the most important point - COMMUNICATION. The holy grail to finding love and keeping it. We have the time now to allocate to meaningful communication. Time to send a text and book in your next Zoom call. Time to phone. And hopefully time to breathe, think and contemplate the lessons learned on where communication has worked, or gone wrong in the past. Applying that learning and those skills will make all the difference as Clients move into their new relationships.

Issue number four: Travel

Those individuals who were on a plane several times a month are going to have to readjust their mindset. If only for a year or so. The Echelon Scene is built on travelling the world to meet the most amazing single men globally. This will continue to happen, don’t worry. But not all businesses will be sending their employees halfway across the globe for a 30 minute meeting which could have happened on Zoom. We think this is a good thing. The idea that travel is the one time we can breathe, collect ourselves and reset is totally untrue. We can do that anywhere and hopefully we have all been able to appreciate home that little bit more. Those who are single have noticed that travel can distract from focusing their attention on finding that special someone. Jacqueline can’t think of any examples where this has resulted from a solo trip to Bali to blow off steam.

These changes in 2020 will hopefully last a lifetime. As should your relationships. At The Echelon Scene, we have always been and will continue to be focused on one thing - meaningful long-term, monogamous partnerships, that will stand the test of time. Fast fashion, travel and dating apps are not conducive to the lessons COVID-19 has literally forced us to learn.

Please do think through whether these lessons resonate with you and feel free to contact Jacqueline to take the next step to improving your life and finding real lasting love.