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Happiness

In big cities, where the focus especially is on being busy, making money, the hustle bustle and achieving- how does one achieve balance? At The Echelon Scene, we just watched the documentary about the Blue Zones, which I am sure many have. And, it’s made us think. What is truly important in life for our mental and physical health? A friend of The Echelon Scene who is a holistic Dr, reported a huge surge in anti anxiety and depression medication since COVID. COVID shifted us to becoming even more isolated from one another. Our circles have shrunk, our work dynamics have changed and what has that left us with? A bigger void, more loneliness and less satisfaction. If there is one thing the documentary highlighted, it is sense of community- and love. And whilst there are still communities in big cities, do we have enough of that? And what are we truly told is worthwhile: looking great, having rippling abs and crunching numbers. Neither of those factors contribute to our overall mental health in the slightest. This need to be busy achieving is lonely and competitive. The mix of COVID, capitalism and marketing has only served to turn us against one another, instead of bringing us together.

So, what is the answer? I think the gentleman in the Blue State documentary put it perfectly. Prioritise happiness, love and health. Be in places that make you calm and don’t force yourself to live a life that makes you unhappy. This is not to encourage being selfish, removing yourself from any uncomfortable situations and not learning to cope with them, or being extremely sensitive and putting yourself first- in fact, quite the opposite. Get to a place of inner abundance where you can help people around you and be happy, show up and love others.

Sure, if working hard, getting rippling abs, crunching numbers and city life makes you feel abundant- then do it! But if you find yourself depleted, lonely and lost- start making changes. You only get one life to live and you’re not going to find a partner until you start making positive changes for yourself.

Some tips:

1.     Hire life coach Ashlie Walker

2.     Spend more time with family and friends as a priority and if they are not serving you, make new friends

3.     Get outside, walk in nature and put your skin in the sun for at least 20 mins a day

4.     Meditate in the mornings

5.     Notice where you feel peace - write that down

6.     Get off the dating apps- serial dating does not do anything to help you find love or happiness

7.     Don’t mistake comfort for a rut- find that balance of pushing yourself forward, but also giving yourself love, safety and support

8.     Stop teaching yourself to accept what you have and know when to ask for more

9.     Talk to impartial, unbiased connections

10.   Know your worth

For more advice, reach out to Jacqueline Burns directly!