Growing and it’s key part to play in you finding love. - Gay Matchmaking Agency - London New York Berlin Toronto - The Echelon Scene

January and February are rarely the most exciting months of the year for most people. Even the ones who go away (which is most of our Clients). However, they can be the most fruitful months for reflection. I (and every man and their dog) has spoken about setting intentions for the year- but today I want to talk about growing. I cannot / do not stress enough the importance of consistently working on oneself throughout our lives. In previous blogs I have spoken of inner growth in relation to our mental health and how that impacts relationships. You may have read me harp on about the importance of communication and deep diving into our own psyches continuously. But today I want to discuss taking action in different ways. Growing has to come from all sides. If you are the type of person when feeling lost to channel your energy into things like breathwork, therapy, mindfulness and free writing- why not try learning a new skill. This could be; taking up a sport, giving back to your community. Try putting yourself in new situations. Or, alternatively, if you are the type who, when feeling lost, channels your energy into sports, your community, or putting yourself in new situations- try sitting with yourself for a bit, speaking to a therapist, breathing and free writing.

COVID has changed us and we have learnt some bad habits from the past two years. We have been so focused on keeping on positively, that we haven’t had the ability to channel ourselves into getting out into the world and doing things that scare us. And that is where growth lies. Ultimately, often what scares us isn’t actually scary at all, but a wonderful addition to our lives.

So when you’re setting your intentions, really look inwards at what you’ve always wanted but felt too scared to address. Eg.. someone with poor mental health who dreams of peace mentally often fears therapy or coaching. However they are the ones who need it the most. Or those who avoid new groups of people, are the ones who need to get out there and learn to mingle the most. Again those who are scared to be bad at things, go learn a skill you can't do, but have always wanted to conquer- be vulnerable.

You may ask how this translates to dating and finding love, but it does. Showing up our true selves is key, but make sure that’s the best version of ourselves. And that doesn’t have to be the shiniest version, but it has to do with how we feel. Learning, growing and challenging ourselves can be scary, especially as we get older and more stuck in our ways. As children we are constantly learning and it is a part of our every day. But as we get older we become more afraid to ask questions, look stupid, be bad at things, or appear weak. I have spoken before about vulnerability and how essential that is. Vulnerability is strength.

So, go out into the world and do what scares you! 2022 is the year for growth and if you feel good, work towards your goals and continue learning- you will find the perfect match, at the perfect time for you. The Universe is a wonderful thing!

Sidenote: if you really don’t feel good and all of this truly scares you, please do speak to someone. For more information on that please contact me direct and I will put you in touch with the wonderful and fantastic Ashlie Walker, our resident life coach extraordinaire.